Has there ever been somebody in your life that you cannot please no matter how you try? Someone who might be nice to you to your face but talks bad about you to others? Do you try really hard to make them like you and only get frustrated? Jesus had groups of people who had that attitude toward him. They were called the Pharisees and the Sadducee’s. They sat and listened to Jesus and plotted ways to kill him. Their whole agenda was to bait him and used innocent sounding questions with traps all through them. Matthew chapter 22 verses 15-17 states:
15 Then the Pharisees left the place where Jesus was teaching. They made plans to trap Jesus with a question. 16 They sent some of their own followers and some men from the group called Herodians. These men said, “Teacher, we know that you are an honest man. We know that you teach the truth about God’s way. You are not afraid of what other people think about you. All men are the same to you. 17 So tell us what you think. Is it right to pay taxes to Caesar or not?” Now what was the purpose of this question? Was it a friendly question to help them love God more? NO, It was designed and probably mulled over for hours as a question to ask Jesus to trap him. If he said to not pay their taxes they could turn him over to the government on charges of treason against their country. Jesus knew what they were trying to do and his wisdom was amazing! In verses 18:22 he answers
8 But Jesus, knowing their evil intent, said, “You hypocrites, why are you trying to trap me? 19 Show me the coin used for paying the tax.” They brought him a denarius, 20 and he asked them, “Whose image is this? And whose inscription?”
21 “Caesar’s,” they replied.

Then he said to them, “So give back to Caesar what is Caesar’s, and to God what is God’s.”
22 When they heard this, they were amazed. So they left him and went away.
Notice how they complimented Jesus to try to get his guard down. Notice also how the compliments led into their trap. Jesus knew that these people were against him and didn’t fall for their trap. He didn’t hang out with these fake followers with their fake questions. While they were concerned about their appearance in society, he looked at their hearts. He saw that their hearts were evil. He saw that these were not his friends.
Jesus also looks at our heart. He is looking for a heart of love, compassion, and forgiveness. That is in effect the heart of God. We are to have that kind of heart. He told us to love our enemies. In Matthew 5:43-48 he states 43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. 46 If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? 47 And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? 48 Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.
The fact that we are called to love our enemies means that we will have enemies. Many Christians will read the passage above and conclude that they need to not only be nice to people who are against them but constantly try to change how they feel about them. They may feel that forever trying to please them is a way to change their attitude. A lot of energy is wasted by Christians trying to change what only God can. The old saying is true “you can’t please everyone.” Yes, it is true we need to love our enemies. That doesn’t mean we have to constantly be around them. It means that in our heart we do not harbor hate and that we have a loving attitude toward them. It means that we truly care about them no matter how they feel about us. What it doesn’t mean is that we have to waste energy and time being what they want us to be. We must be ourselves and follow our Godly principles and if they hate us so be it. The old saying “Like water off of a ducks back” applies here. Like a duck when they feel the water hit them we need to quickly shake it off. Common sense tells us though that it isn’t safe going over a waterfall.
You Can’t Shake Hands With A Crocodile
By Lewis Hamilton
The Crocodile is strong
and will do you harm
They have a mouth
as long as their arm
They may act friendly
but here is the deal
If you get close enough
You’ll be their next meal
Crocodiles are cunning
They live where it’s wet
They will drag you and drown you
Now that’s a safe bet
So why would you go there
and offer your hand?
Has your head forever
been trapped in the sand?
You won’t have an arm
to use or to bend
If you continue to desire
Crocodiles as your friends
So stop trying to travel
the extra furlong or mile
and quit shaking hands
with those Crocodiles

Footnote: There used to be a guy at the church I attended who gave the hardest handshakes. I dreaded shaking hands with him because he always crushed my hand and it was painful. One day I talked to a friend and told him the situation and he gave me some sound advice. When shaking his hand take the initiative and get deep into his hand with yours. That will lesson the force he can apply to your hand. Maybe that is the kind of advice we need for this story. Be aware of the danger your enemies present and have a plan.